Factors Influencing Parental Success

Almost all children spend a sensitive period of their lives in the home and family and lay the foundation of how they live their own lives there. Therefore, the family is one of the most important variables affecting and determining children's behaviors and destinies. In fact, the family naturally lays the foundation of how each person lives. In other words, every child, and even every adult or elderly person, is a full reflection of the family in which they were born and raised. Hence, any investment in the quality of forming families and always caring for them is one of the most important signs of a healthy society. It is obvious that a healthy family is one that can raise healthy children. For this reason, addressing the health of homes and families is, undoubtedly, addressing the health of society and the world. Therefore, it can be said that in a healthy society, the "upbringing" or education and training of families takes precedence over the upbringing of children. The type of family life of a child has an important effect on the development of their personality, and this in turn is determined by the parents. Mothers and fathers who, due to their own past childhood experiences, feel uncertain and insecure in performing the parental duty, lack emotional stability, have an unfavorable view of their children, or do not agree with each other about the method of upbringing, will provide an unfavorable family life for the development of the child's personality. A family in which the principle of cooperation, intimacy, and affection between parents and children prevails, and in which the children's needs are always met in a desirable way, will have a very good effect on the children's personality. Conversely, in a family in which despotism and excessive strictness, conflict between the parents, ignorance of correct child-rearing, and the prevention of the child expressing their needs prevail, the child will never have a healthy personality.

 

Factors effective in the success of parents:

1/ They and their children share in discipline. 2/ They know that discipline is an educational process, not a punitive one. 3/ They know that their behavior and emotions affect their child's behavior and emotions. 4/ They themselves are a model or example of responsibility and accountability. 5/ They focus most of their attention and energy on the positive aspects of their children's behaviors. 6/ They educate and encourage children to think for themselves. 7/ They teach their children how to exercise self-control or self-restraint. 8/ They build self-esteem in their children. 9/ They know that healthy self-esteem is the most important component of children's need to develop and expand self-confidence and motivation. 10/ They learn from their children. 11/ They have the kind of response patterns that reduce misbehavior. 12/ They are steady and firm. 13/ They are moderate. 14/ They are calm in their actions. 15/ They apply instructive punishments. 16/ They pair specific activities with good behavior. 17/ They anticipate issues as much as possible. 18/ They have recreational plans and programs. 19/ They have programs for teaching "the value of doing household chores." 20/ They are precise and strict but positive. 21/ They are flexible about changing.

In a healthy society there is no task more important and more responsible than raising a child, and no factor is more effective than parents in the growth and development of the child.